Adam Khan author of the book Self-Help Stuff That Works has some great advice that has real-life application and it starts with understanding this basic life premise; “Remember whatever is happening is temporary.”

When someone assumes her problem is permanent, it can lead to depression and feelings of hopelessness.  Sometimes a different approach is what is needed to help change this train of thought. One important finding is that when people fail to accept the temporary nature of things, they suffer more than they need to.  According to Buddha (and I agree with this), this lack of acceptance that things are temporary and always changing is one of the main sources of suffering for humanity.

‘This too shall pass’. The one constant in this universe is that everything changes.  Remind yourself of this and you’ll suffer less. You’ll get disheartened less often and less intensely. And you’ll even deal with conflict much better.

Say that phrase to yourself next time you feel upset about something. Use it as a mantra. The circumstances that caused the upset will change  - maybe not all of them, but some parts of your circumstances will change all by themselves fairly quickly. And remind yourself that your feelings will change inevitably, even if you do nothing to change them. You won’t stay upset forever. I know this is obvious to you now, but when you’re upset, you tend to forget this important truth.

It’s a simple idea, but it can dramatically ease the strain of the moment, making you better able to deal with it, creating less stress in your body, and making you a calmer person to interact with. 

Try and use these wise words and thought next time you feel stressed or find yourself in conflict.